Why I dont like to hang out much

Its been a point that I have reduced my socializing to a point that its just barely 2% of my time..By socializing I mean going out and hanging out with friends in person..

Many have asked me why..Well here is why..

Does it happen to you that when you hang out with your friends and come back home with a feeling of complete wastage of your valuable time? Exactly many at times I just come back home with a random feeling that I was hanging out with too many people that I dont know or they dont know me much and we are not able to go deep down into our world that we believe or ideas that we want to share..

And honestly its very rarely that you will find people who are within your same thought process or the ones who possess same goal as yours..But thank god to internet that I am able to find virtually many such people who are believer of same thought process or ideas that I work on..May be its via twitter or via youtube or via various social platforms that I come across these amazing people across the world who holds a world class thought process and Its actually very uplifting when you listen to them or read their vlogs etc..

And thats precisely why I like to be mostly at home and do virtual networking with people across the globe and thats even more fulfilling than wasting my precious time with office colleagues (who happens to be your competitor in real life,or they will leak out if you ever disclose anything to them) or friends who may be envy of your success and laugh at your failure) ..

I realize having a world class ambition or ambition to pursue something unique  may not be within your social parameter..Simply because people will think you are crazy and most people will not be able to relate to such stuffs..But its good to be around group of such people virtually who will give you the courage to be on the league..which your so called friends circle domestically will not be able to give you..And most people around us are actually very comfortable in their life and they are so comfortable that they dont want to talk anything productive apart from gossiping,taking selfies at ccd/barista or enjoying tv etc..And this is nothing but a disaster for a person like me who wont be able to relate to what their world look like..

I have also realized that most successful people surrounds themselves with ultra smart people which in turn uplifts their whole experience or level of intellect..You will have no clue how immensely your knowledge will take a leap once you start surrounding yourself with such smart people..And lets be honest these smart people are scattered globally. And if you ask me how let me tell you once you start your journey for quest of knowledge you will eventually end up meeting such people..

However this does not necessarily mean that I dont hang out at all..I enjoy light moments with friends or colleagues as much as I do at home cooking for pleasure..Having said this, I miss that  intellectual depth which I get from my virtual friends/followers/mentors  that will move me to tears ..

Do you also feel the same..Do leave a comment /question to know more about it or share you experience ..Take care..

What sensible woman look for in men

This is actually a self introspection topic for me..And honestly I thought of sharing this with you just in case we see some commonalities among each other..Or we can also look at this as a self help kind of stuff..

Lets get right into the topic.The way the world is getting complex and so is our life its really getting difficult to generalize what should be the right or wrong attribute of an individual..Now all I can speak is for myself and what my friends also agrees to..May be there are too many myths going on about woman and their psychology etc..

But honestly there are certain general principles which hold true during ancient era and still holds true even now..

First and foremost what I am really referring to is sensible relationship..And what I am going to talk about is most woman look for and generally pervasive..

A high self esteem is something that woman generally look for in men..And this means no matter how you look or how tall or how short you are,if you have  a high self esteem within yourself its a very good quality..

The next thing I want to mention is being healthy..I guess what I am talking about is when a man takes care of himself like goes to gym, personal hygiene like showers or perfumes ,dresses neatly thats again is a very attractive quality..

Modesty is another important characteristic about men that women actually looks for..What I mean is being comfortable in your possession..May be you have a lot of possession in your life but however being comfortable and modest about it is actually the way that you can gain respect from a women..I know I have come across man who have boasted about the amount of salary they get or the car or the business etc..But really if you can be modest and comfortable about it is what attracts a woman because in a way if you are not modest about it that invariably means these things like cars,money all of these are new things happening to you in your life and you can just get enough of it..

Next characteristic I would like to talk about is about being independent emotionally. When.When you like someone its a good thing but its also equally important that you should also have your own space..Being clinged to a woman 24/7 can actually make you dependent and that is actually not a good sign..I guess what I am trying to say is when we see a couple at the beginning of a relationship they walk together leaning on each other because you are co-dependent on each other.and thats not necessarily a bad thing ..But really in the long run it will be great if they can walk side by side straight and balanced still holding each other hand..what it means you are still together but you very much in control of your powers and destinies..This also means you are independent yet united in the goals that you have..

Being calm and composed is a very attractive quality in men..If you are looking for a long term relationship its a very important quality..What I mean is the way you approach problem or issues etc is a very attractive quality ..When you are early in your relationship its fairly easy because the only responsibility is towards each other really..But later in the relationship like after marriage etc you add on those weight on top of it and you really need to be someone who has calm and handle those responsibilities..Because its going to get lot harder down the road..

Well as much I can say..there are still many..But I guess I have put forward the most important ones that I felt important to me..Please do leave a comment and share what you think..Also please feel free to disagree and let me know why..Take care..

What it takes to be mature global person

When I was growing up no one really shared anything to me on how to be groomed,a better personality etc..I have learnt it all throughout the span of 30 years,working across the globe, interacting and meeting with various new people, culture etc.. And today I am so glad to share the same with you ..If this post can help anyone there is nothing like it..

So many people ask me what it takes to a mature human being both at professional and at personal level..I guess both are just same..so here are few key points which attributes to a matured person.

So first and foremost taking ownership of your action or rather responsibility of your action..When we were younger  we used to shift the blame to someone else in order to avoid ever having to experience negative consequences..But actually these are the the type of situation if you can swallow your pride and say "You are rite and this was my fault  and I accept responsibility and I apologize"..You will have no idea how much respect you will gain once you can have the courage to do that..Many at times people overlook this factor..This also holds true during an argument with other person..Just to avoid embarrassment many people don't tend to accept their action and get into blame game like "you said so, that's why I did it" or you were the one who said like that" etc,however if one can actually  take the responsibility of their action you will rise above not only in an argument scene in particular but in your life in general..

Many at times we have asked people during investor meeting if he/she can share the most uncomfortable moment in their life..And if the person can comfortably tell us what it was we gain the faith that the person had the courage to overcome the embarrassment of his most personal thing in life and this is what it takes to be a true entrepreneur..

Again this is very important to be respectful to others..Its a sure sign of immaturity when you make fun of others or degrade etc..No one deserves to be subjected to that..When I started my career I used to be made fun sometimes by my friends or seniors because I was earning less than them and I was not dressing the way they used to  etc..It used to hurt me..I guess what I am trying to say is no one deserves to be degraded for what they are..And if we can master the skill of respecting others there is nothing like that.

Another important point I want to mention is being calm and composed of your behavior..History says that people who are calm they have gained more success.And this is true..If you act impulsively and show impulsive nature the more is the risk for people may be afraid of you and that is actually not a good sign because this will lead you to be a unapproachable person..And no one would like to be considered the same.Learning how to digest success is another important trait of a global matured person..Simply because successful people across the globe are very modest about their success and thats why they are able to gravitate even more success eg Elon Musk, Larry Page,Sergey Brin etc...If we listen to their interviews they are very poised and never lose their mind even at the silliest question by the interviewer..

I also want to make it a point here to mention about non-diplomacy here..What I mean is most of the time in corporates or in personal life people act very diplomatically just to avoid some outcome..But that is not necessarily true..Because diplomacy is a recipe for Hippocratic..Good if you are going to be a foreign secretariat or in NATO but certainly not in day to day life..I hate people who act like a diplomat and that is according to me a Hippocratic  and not a maturity..For example if you go to a place where a person is stuck with a debate with another person for justice and you are acting like a silent spectator ..That is a sure sign of hippocracy.A matured person would be one who would actually try to mitigate the fight between both and at times even learning to take stand is also a very a good approach..

Being humble is another important point here. Immature people act like they know everything..The key is to learn from everyone around you specially learn more from people who knows more than you..I think knowing your audience and adjusting your content according to person is a very good way of exhibiting maturity..

Well hope you will leave few comments if you also feel the same..And please feel free to disagree..Take care...

Some thoughts on Design aesthetics

Have you ever wondered that most of the times we experience discomfort in our life due to design aesthetic of stuffs around us..Many of us may have overlooked it and many might have never realized that it may cause issues..However here is my take on it..

So have you ever got hurt by the corners of a table ? Most of the time due to our rush activities in life we do..But have you ever realized that if the corner of a table is round and polished it will never allow us to get hurt..And that's precisely I call as design aesthetic..So now that we get a hint of what it is about lets dive into the topic..

I realized most of the time our day to day life would be so much more convenient if the designs of stuffs around us like : Product we use whether mobile,apps from technical point of view) ,house that we stay, road that we cross, car that we drive or anything for that matter..

So lets just talk about product like our mobile for a moment..I will not touch upon much on this area simply because I know that companies spend almost a millions in creating better design for ease of us..So when we see the comfort that a smart phone or app feature is giving us is due to someone is working on those feature..

But I really hope the same happens with the day to day stuffs around us..So when we buy furniture I really wonder about the design aesthetic behind it..Most of these designs are just to make us more uncomfortable..And sometimes it is so inconvenient to use them..May be some imported brands have nailed most of these but atleast not in the domestic sectors..

And what about the case of Indian Railways staircases. Those steep staircases can give a young person like me knee pain and not to forget about an old person travelling and trying to climb those staircase..I mean what came to the mind of the person who designed such staircases..Isn't there be better way of making our life more comfortable ..Am sure it does but simply we are too lame to realize it or to underestimate it..

And the cars in domestic market or for that matter those public buses or the cabs that company provides to most of the people..(I must assume I used to when I started my career)..I mean there is hardly any legspace concept..What were the manufactures of these vehicles thinking while designing these products for us..Are people just to squeeze inside a vehicle like any animals..Really!! And have you ever wondered why those vehicles like buses or those small tampo cars shake vigorously even in slightest of humps in the roads..Its simple due to low shock absorption..

And in our day to day life small small stuffs like a cosmetic bottle with a pump helps to eliminate the risk of pouring more product..and for that matter a lip balm in a pot increases the risk of more bacteria due to digging of your finger in it..etc etc..

I think I can just go on and on about this topic..But have you also experience discomfort in your life due to design aesthatics..Please do leave a comment ..

Intellect,attitude towards life etc..

Intellect is something that is very precious and no need to say people with intellect really gets my attention and so is the overall attitude towards life in general.

But how often you really come across such people ..Very rare isn't it..

So lets just talk about attitude towards life in general for a moment..When I was learning driving someone asked me why I need a car when there are so many public vehicles in the city..and this made me realize how we see things in life..For many people specially Indians life in attitude towards life is very shallow..For us we dont want to cross that leap or not even think of it..For that matter anything ..We dont want to get into a lifestyle..Interestingly i met this person who happens to be a big shot in a MNC in bangalore..And I asked how does he commute..He said company vehicle..And when I asked why he said why u need a vehicle when your company is providing you with a free one..So this brings me to question is the vehicle only to commute to office..In life there can be so many instances when you need a vehicle..for that matter when your wife is pregnant would you allow her to get pushed and shift by crowded public vehicle..Interestingly another person told me he travels by mumbai metro and thats how so many million people travel everyday..another one told me car is just a luxury..

Its just that for us we dont want to cross that midiocre life and we are so comfortable in it..This is what I call an attitude towards life in general..That too just for a car !!

Many people even earning too much salary will max go to Coorg or Kerala for a honeymoon or for that matter their travel plans limits to domestic ..And I wonder is it too difficult to see the world that exists around us and go ahead and experience a different culture..Why is it that we always limit ourself to experience something out of our comfort zone..

Interesting how much we can actually get away with all of these..And if someone likes to appreciate the fact that we should move out of our comfort zone people immediately start to stereotype us as  snobbish or show off or luxury etc..But now I attribute the same to shallow thinking..

What about intellect..Lets think for a moment..I think the general knowledge about most of the things around us is so overwhelming isn't it..And if someone actually thinks and cares for it there is absolutely an intellect that is behind it..I guess what I am trying to say is trying to know about the expiry date of a product or a product that may be very niche to Indian market,something like a new product feature ..how interesting it is to be around such people who cares for all of these..But how many times we have come across  such people..I guess not many..

Many at times I realize we as Indians just dont care about lot of stuffs happening around us..not to mention except cricket ..I mean to say about life in general what we eat,what we dress ,where things are coming,what brands are all about..

Nonetheless leaving you all with that thought...

Brown people hypocrisy ,sarcasm

Alrite so this post is about brown people and their hypocrisy, non understanding of sarcasm etc...How many times you might have come across to a brown person whom you have to actually tell on face that "you dont want him,and that you hate him"...Sarcasm or indirect approach never works for us isn't it..True!!

Brwon people almost all time never understand sarcasm ..You have to tell them on face ..You have to chase him/her away in order to avoid him/her..For brown people idea of sarcasm or being polite to us means may be "one more chance" and not necessarily "No"..So they will chase you until the point you actually have to chase them with a strong verbal note..

And trust me this is not just with the uneducated ones..For educated ones too..Working in various corporates left me with mixed feelings about Indians..They fall in love quickly and get possessive till the extent that they will get inside your house and cook for you a "Curry"..Lol..The point is nagging behaviour which can drive you nuts about Indians..

I tell you one more thing..When you go to a bargain shop and not buying things that they want to sell you..Guess what happens.? They literally scold you and abuse you until you leave the shop..Means "get the fu** out of my shop if you dont want to buy this"... awkward!!

Wait as if that isn't enough when a girl and a guy broke off after a relationship disaster guess what happens?? The guy/girl abuses each other till the extent each of their morals go to a shit pot..They will go and shit about each other amongst their close network of friends..Worst case scenario suppose it is a one sided break off, suppose if the girl dumps the guy then the guy may even go to the extent of threatening you with the past intimacy disclosure to your parents..Disgusting but true..!

I guess what I am trying to say is browns cant leave a relationship with class thats the problem.That each person has their own self respect and that we should not break our moral just because the relationship did not work is never understood by brown guys..That just because relationship did not work out we are not suppose to disrespect each other  is not understood by brown guys!! Mutual break off never happens within Browns..I have seen white guys breaking off with each other and saying good bye just amazes me ..Happens so I asked one of my white friend what did he say while leaving you..She said " You know what sweetheart this relationship is not working and its the high time we should see other people..I really hope you meet the person you are looking for..Here is the rose ..and you are awesome..Good luck!! " Imagine if this holds true about brown guys..Never..!!

Growing up I have seen so many brown man abusing their woman and literally putting acid on their face .Beating wife for dowry and what not ..

Have you also experienced the same..Please do leave a feedback..Em I highly appreciate!!

My inclination towards western civilization

Very often people have stereotyped me as a being more western or Non-Desi (Non-Indian)..This post is not to defend or rebel against what perception is but about why I have a sincere inclination towards western civilization and more specifically towards western people.

So I always had this obsession of going in depth of things that I am doing..For that matter it can be anything from the the food I eat or the products I am using or a person I am following or education that I am pursuing.. In other words I have to have a deffinite meaning of why I am doing the thing..This is a problem for many Indian people..The reason is we have an affiliation for shallow knowledge..We dont want to know things in depth or in other words we just eat or pursue or consume things just for the sake of it. Probably this has to do a lot about quality..Because most of the time we just dont care about it..

But the same is not true about western people (I mean most of them)..They believe in thorough understanding of why exactly they use a product/services, they know exactly what they like and why they should use the product or services.Their depth of knowledge for these things just amazes me a lot. Most importantly for each and everything they have to have a meaning of why they want to do it..

Similarly not to mention about education or degrees..Its just goes beyond my imagination how deeply and obsessively western people pursue education..For them its not just a degree or certificate to produce or be boast of in front of society..For them they believe in the particular domain and thats why they pursue that course..For eg: If a western person chose to be a engineer, he knows exactly why and how much he loves to be an engineer (what value addition he can bring) unlike an Indian where our career is mostly decided by our parents. No wonder why so many successful companies are built by westerners. Education as they see is a part of their passion which they obsessively compulsively pursue..And you know what their level of understanding something new is we just can not even imagine..Is it not enough reason by now why I appreciate western civilization..

I will give you guys more reasons . Sharing of what knowledge you have with the world is another amazing trait that I have seen among westerners. Most of the time the blogs or the videos uploaded in youtube (How to of anything ) or the links shared in Twitter is by the westerners which they do it very selflessly..And you know to be surrounded by these people is very uplifting experience ..The newsletters I have subscribed from various industry people I know virtually is mostly westerners..And its just amazes me beyond my level of understanding that why they do all these things so selflessly so that we the people of other part of the world can have access to what they are experiencing..Isn't it reason enough to admire them..!!

And you know what guys there are some fundamental difference between them and us.Its would be very controversial if I get into the depth of these differences.however respecting everyone's sentiment I just want to say that my respect for western people's contribution to mankind,technology,science and everything is just very humbling..

And at the local level if we see India would not have been India if British would have not invaded it.(I know that might sound little offensive)..But I tell you why..Indian Railways is still the largest monopoly and no need to mention it was the outcome of British who introduced us..

The ugly societal phenomenon like Sati Pratha (Where a widow is burnt alive with her dead husband),or the child marriage, or many such things have been actually been removed partially by British..And Raja Rammohan Roy was called a slave of westerners because he supported these reforms in our society. Imagine a society full of all these ..Would India progressed this much as how it is now??

Most of the time we tend to forget how incredibly our life has changed after the technological revolution in the west. No need to mention about the amazing innovation that is happening in the west in all these areas..That itself is so overwhelming ..

Love love people who has brought changes to society and more importantly selflessly..These are some of my thoughts on why my inclination goes towards them.. I would also love to hear from you what do you think..Take care..!!