"You are not yet married??".Well many who might be wondering,that's the very obvious question that I face most of the time,and yes associated with that the question "why" too..I happened to face this so much that I am now compulsively confessing my whole overview towards this marriage stuff..We live in this society where a girl crossing 25 means she is over aged for so called marriage institution..And ironically statistics says fascination for younger girl is even more interesting in marriage market .Its like buying fresh stock of vegetable in the market the younger it is more sale able it is..lol..yes that's true!!
And yes how can we forget about being fair skinned.."Is your girl fair or extra fair??" is more popular in the questionaire of the so called Groom side than how qualified she is..And to bring more irony the Fair and Lovely product advertisement is even more funny..where a girl having more demand in marriage market after applying this product because she is fair now and confident more.Alas more than 60 years of Indian independence and yet shocked to see the craze of fairness product in Indian stores..It looks like Indian mindset is yet to be out of that colonial imperialism when it comes to girls..A girl fair means she is Radha..and a guy can afford to be dark because lord Krishna was shyama means dark..!!
I happened to read Shobha de's book "The spouse..The truth about marriage"and really there are so many things that goes beyond marriage..And I am surprised that when it comes searching a girl for marriage it is the basic requirements that she needs to be beautiful,a cook,fair skinned and oh yeah most importantly HOMELY...lol..I can write a whole book on this topic though..
She needs to be a combination of being modern and traditional values..Now guys please find out what does that mean..What I derive from this statement is that the girl needs to be confused..Isn't that what it means..See either she is traditional or modern now where do you get this hybrid of mix of traditional and modern values only god knows or the person concerned..
Oh yeah I happen to read so many postings in Facebook by my male friends that husbands are not atm machine and stuff..well where did that come from..If you think a girl needs to be homely than is it not what you men only invented that a guy needs to be the provider of financial support to the family and the women takes care of home or more specifically kitchen and children etc..Now when the women is expecting to get her a small gift you think that husbands are not atm machine!!
The other day I was spending some time at of my aunt's place..she recently gone through uterus removal surgery due to cancer and do you guys wana know what uncle's statement was when he met me??.." I made her men now..".It was like someone poked me with a knife..Will a women's immotions and her kind heartedness as a women will be removed from her heart if her uterus which is the so called child producing organ is removed?? How harsh a person can be to make such statements!!
Yes women in our society still needs to go through such things in life..Marriage as a social institution is loosing its charm because of number of divorce cases and yet living together is not legal in India..we Indians would love to live an indignified life, yet not agree to come out of our hyppocracy..I really honour Raja Ram mohan Rai who in the renaissance period of India did try to usher some of worst Indian cruel traditional practices..India needs yet another Ram mohan Rai..
And yes how can we forget about being fair skinned.."Is your girl fair or extra fair??" is more popular in the questionaire of the so called Groom side than how qualified she is..And to bring more irony the Fair and Lovely product advertisement is even more funny..where a girl having more demand in marriage market after applying this product because she is fair now and confident more.Alas more than 60 years of Indian independence and yet shocked to see the craze of fairness product in Indian stores..It looks like Indian mindset is yet to be out of that colonial imperialism when it comes to girls..A girl fair means she is Radha..and a guy can afford to be dark because lord Krishna was shyama means dark..!!
I happened to read Shobha de's book "The spouse..The truth about marriage"and really there are so many things that goes beyond marriage..And I am surprised that when it comes searching a girl for marriage it is the basic requirements that she needs to be beautiful,a cook,fair skinned and oh yeah most importantly HOMELY...lol..I can write a whole book on this topic though..
She needs to be a combination of being modern and traditional values..Now guys please find out what does that mean..What I derive from this statement is that the girl needs to be confused..Isn't that what it means..See either she is traditional or modern now where do you get this hybrid of mix of traditional and modern values only god knows or the person concerned..
Oh yeah I happen to read so many postings in Facebook by my male friends that husbands are not atm machine and stuff..well where did that come from..If you think a girl needs to be homely than is it not what you men only invented that a guy needs to be the provider of financial support to the family and the women takes care of home or more specifically kitchen and children etc..Now when the women is expecting to get her a small gift you think that husbands are not atm machine!!
The other day I was spending some time at of my aunt's place..she recently gone through uterus removal surgery due to cancer and do you guys wana know what uncle's statement was when he met me??.." I made her men now..".It was like someone poked me with a knife..Will a women's immotions and her kind heartedness as a women will be removed from her heart if her uterus which is the so called child producing organ is removed?? How harsh a person can be to make such statements!!
Yes women in our society still needs to go through such things in life..Marriage as a social institution is loosing its charm because of number of divorce cases and yet living together is not legal in India..we Indians would love to live an indignified life, yet not agree to come out of our hyppocracy..I really honour Raja Ram mohan Rai who in the renaissance period of India did try to usher some of worst Indian cruel traditional practices..India needs yet another Ram mohan Rai..
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