Paris I will come back..

Memories are the only treasure ..And yeah I love the fact that at least few such treasures I do have in my life..One of them is my trip to Paris..Now this just didn’t happen like as if I went to honeymoon or something but it has so happened that while my posting in Denmark for this Danish Bank I happened to visit Paris..Something  magical and magnificent  about Paris that always  excited me..The road the scenery the architecture,the culture and most importantly the people name anything and Paris is proud of everything..In just one word it’s a beautiful city..And when I went there I just fell in love with the city..

Now as a not so rich girl who went just as like a boho girl I stayed in a youth Hostel..The beautiful Youth hostel  which also provided me with a French breakfast costed somewhere around 20 Euros..I loved It..!!..My day started of with the visit to this beautiful Notre dam..Now I know most of you all know the history etc of Notre Damm so I don’t have any intention to bore you all with the history..Now the intention of this post is not to give description about Paris as a architecture or history anything as such..But my experience in the city.the people that I interacted,the comfort that I found is the main catch.Alrite now on my way towards Notre Damm I realized that my card was not working for some odd reason or may be I was not able to operate that French language ATM machine..I saw a girl walking by I asked her if she could help me out..She tried but it didn’t work out too..She felt bad and she asked me how much do I need to go anywhere that I want to..I said that I need just one Euro 20 schillings for the Metro..She gave me 5 Euros and said ” Welcome to Paris”!!..I was overwhelmed by this stranger girl who unconditionally helped me out with money..But than that’s what I call welcoming in Parisian way..Where on earth you will find such kind of unconditional people who is gona help a tourist just like that..It just reminded me of Indian tourism scene how we treat them..starting from the autowalas to hotelwalas how we treat the foreigners everyone is aware of..I visited Notre Damm..And I met this lady out there whose children’s were playing violin to gather money to go to Disneyland..I loved the fact that people out there just don’t beg in front of others they will perform and they will earn that money..That’s so nice..

I was admiring Eiffel tower in the middle of the night and the beautiful river Sienne and those romantic couples holding hands..The city was awake even at 3 a.m in the night may be because it was a weekend I am not sure.."Please buy one rose" somebody told..I  saw this street guy selling red roses..Perhaps love has one universal way of expressing whether in front of Tajmahal or in front of Eiffel tower one thing that is common is the rose..I bought one..I walked back to the hostel..Metro was closed by 1 a.m  and it was already 3 a.m and I decided to see the Eiffel once again in the daylight..I forgot the key of the room and someone at 3.30 a.m opened the door of my room..and I had no words to thank this girl who happened to sleep in the top bunker..

Paris is glamourous..Its street eight out of ten girls will be extremely beautiful..And so with the guys..They are extremely handsome and well dressed..I met this French guy in the flight and next day he showed me Paris in his scooter..And I met his grand mom when he took me to his house..I loved the hospitality..They are nice and wise people,unconditionally lovable..It was already 2 days that I passed in Paris and I was overwhelmed by the lifestyle that people has there..I was so thrilled to see the restaurants and beautiful streets without any honking noise..

I went to few more places after that and there is the time for this boho girl to return back..But I will come back Paris I promise because I didnt have enough of you and lots of love till than..

 

New year Resolution stuff..

My new year resolution  Eat healthy and stay fit..And trust me I am paying for it..I  recently joined a gym..And no surprise the days are  like I am doing something meaningful to my thyroid bloated body..My body saying thanks with those pains in the stomach muscles(Ab crunches),my flabby arm muscles (bicep or tricep curl stuff ).In  the race of staying healthy and staying fit I also joined the gym with the aspiration of a lean looking body which I always used to hate..To many with surprise I was like this skinny girl before until I took this thyroid treatment which bloated me of with those extra kilos..Now I am in the process of a lifelong struggle to cut down those calories which I never used to really bother about. But fortunately or unfortunately its like forcing me to be health conscious is really paying me off with that glow in my face, beautiful smooth skin and yeah lovely hair too..blush blush..

I joined this amazing  belly dancing classes too just to reduce those jelly-belly stuffs..The dance master actually inspired me that one should have some belly in fact to do belly dancing..What else do I need its like blessed in disguise..I am happy that I am learning something unconventional  and non -traditional unlike those well beaten bharat or kathakali etc..Well many of them came to me and said “Aiyyo you are learning belly dancing you should learn something descent da”..Now I realized where that decency stuff came from since in belly dance you will be showing that belly so soooo its an indecent stuff..Etc Etc..

Well the  topic was about staying healthy and being fit..Now this gym that I joined promised to provide me with that toned body and trust me I am loving it..My muscle pain is something that I am compromising and yeah the struggle is mostly in food ..But no surprise I am happy that I am cutting down those unhealthy food and getting into boil and soup and juice diet stuff..Though its making me feel hungry sometime because we are so use used to  this getting stuffed yet I am sure I will overcome that too very soon..I am happy as long as it pays me back..My thyroid is something that is lifelong but healthy eating is something that my thyroid itself has taught me..Thanks to thyroid.. My doctor has said I look better now indeed with the extra pounds in my body rather than  extra skinny what I was before..I am accepting what is coming on my way..I am trying hard to reduce on my food and craving for those cream,cheese etc etc..Many who thinks that being diet conscious is not so good..But I tell you its always good to be conscious of something that is harmful to you..And your body will thank you for treating it well..Your stomach will say thanks since it does not need to digest something that it doesn’t like..Well this is a new journey for me and I am enjoying it hope many who are thyroid patient like me will also enjoy this post and join me in the journey towards a healthy living..

Divorce etc..

Alrite this time again on a topic that I feel that deffinitely needs close look..Here I am talking about very common phenomenon in today's Indian society..Guess what ?? Divorce..Well I dont know how many of you actually have met or have any close relative who is a divorcee but for me I am a daughter who has been raised by a divorcee..Thats of course is none other than my very own mother..Well why a topic like this is so important to blog is that perceptions again mindsets that a the very term Divorce is associated with..As I always say change is inevitable..Looking back at my own upbringing I have been very closely associated with this term divorce but trust me I am so used to and so is my mother..It all starts with my admission to school..Guardian means essentially a  father figure  those days..And poor me since I had my father yet both were separated I had no other option but to introduce the mother figure here as guardian..And trust me it took a while for the school authority to accept it.Well perhaps my case was the first one in the entire school history itself when someone actually debated on this guardian concept..lol..yes but true..

Then there is this journey of events associated with this Divorce stuff..My friend's sister referring to her maid while speaking to me "poor lady..left by her husband"..Than I was just wondering if she was left by her husband or she dumped that husband in our society its like "left by husband"..However there is this big or rather huge difference..I tell you why..Most of the cases its the girl that leaves her husband..whether its an abusive relation or non-working out type most of the cases its like the girl is actually leaving that husband thingie and coming out of that relation..But yet divorce is a term that most of the time used but however most of the cases its separated is the right term because divorce is official and legal whereas separation is mutual or sometimes one sided..For a girl like me my mother was bold enough to say to the world that she dumped that cruel abusive husband and no regret attached..Yet living in our society we faced so many things in our life..Well here is this my exboyfriend I had to dump because the remark that he passed about his aunt's maid "Divorcee hai toh she is desperate bitch now..That was my last conversation literally with that person who could perhaps hardly feel what that kind of statements means to me!!I could not carry on with that guy anymore trust me..

Being the daughter of a separated parents also attaching its nightmare till now you know..People assume that if her mom is a divorcee that means the girl is gona be the same ..what the hack is it like a logical derivations??You know I dont know how many generations Indian society needs to go through to get over such mentality..

Here is this friend of mine she kind of separated long back from this hardcore abusive relation and a pretty working girl like her goes to office unlike any other single girls..But I think one of our mutual friend did the biggets mistake that day by telling in front of me that "look at her who will say she is a divorcee".. What the hack is there any stamp or social affirmation required to look like a divorcee??..Gosh I can not even think still this generation Indian guy can talk like that!!

These things are pretty common in western society and they I never had any problem revealing my personal life stuff..But I wonder if I open up these stuffs here in India which in turn puts the blame back to the girl itself..Give it a thought!!

Go natural..

Perhaps in the era of technical advancement being natural or nature bounded is kinda old fashioned..But that's me.And I have too many good reasons to go natural..When I say going natural essentially means adopting to natural ways of living life..And today ima share few of my ways of going natural..

I am a person who loves everything about art..I love everything which is artistically presented..I also feel every women is beautiful and women's beauty is something beyond just outer appearance..But at the same time I love the thing about me is that throughout my life I have been trying to adopt to as much as natural ways of keeping myself beautiful..Kajal is the one thing that perhaps I inherited form my mother..I cant even think of going out without wearing that light dash of kajal in my eyes..I love the fact that till today I never bought kajal from outside..Yes that's true..I make it at home..And what best you want just little ghee,a silver spoon and a earthen lamp..That perhaps is the most beautiful thing my mother taught me and am very glad that I am till today able to manage without buying kajal from those cosmetic stores with harmful chemicals..!!

And when I said going natural I also mean some element of it in my day to day nutrition regime..My morning starts with either a glass of fenugreek seed soaked water locally known as methi..It does tastes bitter..But that's again is something that's keeping me away from all those diseases and building my immune system..I remember while being a young child the gifts or rather the bribes that used to come to my house when my mother was working in govt department..The local village guy once came with a bag full of fresh vegetables as bribe to get a job and I as a child was shocked to hear what he said.."Madamji don't worry these vegetables are not from the commercial ones,we have grown these for us so no chemical at all"..Alrite no shocks but after that my mother and me whenever we used to go for shopping we would prefer to buy those very not so shiny vegetables from our local market..Rather my mother would buy vegetables which are kinda not so great looking "terha-merha" type and mostly the roots like beetroot or carrot which grows under the earth and hence chemical free..!!Trust me this is so important to me..In life everything that shines is deffinitely not good and everything that looks good perhaps not essentially feel good for us..

Yet again I ensure that my life is as much as 95 % natural if not 100 % given the fact that we live in 21 st century..Being born and brought up in a place like northeast perhaps I have been now more than accustomed to living that natural life..Our lifestyle and food habits are quite simple and very non complicated unlike those mughal dishes like chicken biriyani or chicken kurma curry type stuffs in north..Yeah the context to mention about the food habit is that again going natural..Now a developing country like India eating outside have become like a trend or rather status symbol to eat in lavish restaurants..But trust me I like to eat at home..Home cooked simple soup and food are as Nigella Lawson says "Nothing like it"..This might sound very old fashioned but perhaps there are few things in life that I cant compromise upon it..And trust me across the globe eating healthy is very much welcome and unlike those Indians who would say "chi chi" to those healthy food of Europeans as I have observed during my stay in Europe.I would rather die for such healthy food..And I have also included few of such element of European style in my day to day food habits..

Love these facts about me in fact and I am happy to share this with you all as well..Do give it a thought..

All about things that make me feel old..

Well..In life change doesn't happen just in a day, its an evolution..Today I am very glad that over past couple of years I have been noticing this evolution in me and now there are many changes that could be possibly a sign of maturity..Hope so or rather ima accepting it..

Now the most vivid change that I would like to talk about is about shopping than followed by few more..Alrite here is me the most impulsive shopper that's something that I cant do much about it..But now I have observed that I would like to go for quality of the purchase than just the appearance..They say it that when your inclination goes towards quality than you are aging..perhaps yes! Avoiding street shopping and getting into brands for that quality satisfaction of me..Yes you heard it right..Now I prefer to go for brands and one possible reason for this is quality rather than just the outlook,that thick quality which will last for sometime..lol..These things have become so important to me,quality of life,quality of living,quality of food,quality of dress,and most and most importantly quality of thinking..

And that early morning stuffs..God damm..I could have killed  myself if someone asked me to wake up at 7a.m in the morning..Well I remember me and my roomies during my initial career planned for a morning walk..Even after several weeks of attempts when it didn't materialise we decided one fine night to stay awake and go for that morning walk early morning at 4a.m..lol..Perhaps I was the last one always to get into office almost throughout my career..Here I am now sharp at office by 9.30 a.m..Ima like in dreamworld and most of my mornings..Its like now I am doing my yoga stuffs and prepare that glass of juice or sip that cup of tea and browse the headline news is getting into my morning routine now..And trust me I am liking it so much that I really feel so fresh throughout the day..I wish I started this routine since my teenage daze...!!!

Major change is like replacement of staying back at home than going out..Ima do something productive throughout my day rather than spending my daze in clubs or pubs..Trust me I would now write something in my blog or do yoga or or prepare that delicious dish at home rather than freaking outisde..This is deffinitely the biggest change I am noticing in me..I now prefer to organise those home party stuff and be resting at home with my friends than freaking outside..

Life is all about change and beauty of change is that it happens without you even realising it..Perhaps the last movie I watched in movie theatre is "Avater "2 years back..And that last clubbing happened in last January..And I am liking it..My priorities changed from being fun-loving to money making..And now I get more excited when share market price goes up or when my mutual fund gets matured..what the hack..That's me?? Yes it is accepting it..

I have also realised that I have become more sensitive now..I would mind things very easily if someone is sarcastic or so..I go deep into analyzing it..I don't like unnecessary friends now..My friends are my colleagues mostly..I chose friends who are more career oriented and gives me valid advices during my tough time..Yet another sign of maturity I guess!!

My love for food has changed from eating fast food to eating healthy..Lol..yes..I can easily skip that chicken roll and go for a soup..I could have killed myself for that until few years back..

Alrite list goes on ..Not sure if everyone goes through these changes in life..But ima enjoy it for sure..

A women named Lisa Ray...

Make myeloma matter!!..Yes this is a movement created by beautiful Lisa Ray who happened to be cured now with the same disease..As a women I always admired the beauty of Lisa..But there is something beyond beauty that we always appreciate rite..That’s what Lisa is all about.. Her self-confidence, perseverance is something that is unparellel..Suffering from cancer is not an easy deal..Specially at a juncture when your career is at peak and when your career itself is in glam world, look good stay fit etc..I have been following Lisa’s blog very closely..The day she was diagnosed with the disease and till the day she was cured I have almost been following her..

Now everyone is aware of how she has overcome that phase and that she is cured now and you will perhaps be shocked to see her recent snaps how immensely gorgeous and beautiful she is looking again..She shredded those extra pounds that she put on during her steroid treatment and that lustrous hair is come back that she shaved off and she used to call it as a “chemo cut”..God she is looking as beautiful as ever..and during one of the interview she said that she made “myeloma sexier”.. Yes she is absolutely right..It takes lot of courage to say such things..And honestly I wonder how many women will have such courage to fight with that disease and finally overcome..

In life we always get bogged down by so many petty issues everyday ..We hardly realize that life is all about taking challenges and overcoming with that..Few people might be born with silver spoon but not all rite..Perhaps the people who go through extreme challenges in life they become extremely wise and I mean what I say..I met so many people in my life who have been successful but true success perhaps is not winning about career or growth or money..Its beyond all that..Life is hard, it’s suppose to be. Many such successful people that I met some of them even before the wind of adversity blows they get shattered..That means the success that they have earned is like a palace of cards..With one blow of wind it shatters..But not Lisa..She fought her battle and look at her now the winner of glory. Moreover Lisa also came up with this awareness movement “Myeloma matters”..As a celebrity she walked the red carpet when she was bloated with steroid during her treatment phase..This definitely takes lot of courage..When she had the option of hiding her disease she decided to go public and not only that, she created a movement about cancer..Now people are aware of what it is and what precautions to be taken..Her yellow diary made everyone aware of what she is going through and perhaps whole of the world was with her during her struggle..Her every moment she shared through her blog diary..These things are so important..Being celebrity and taking such decision is really not everybody’s cup of tea. Beautiful Lisa is now hosting shows on Travel and Living.. she is doing yoga and she is completely back to form ..I sincerely admire such women who has such kind of powerful personality and self-confidence..That what I call rising above..Rising above everything..I know Lisa has a long way to go and I wish her all the success for her future journey in life..!!